Minor Description
When I did the first big refactor on update handler, I was trying to never close the index writer - I had to give in on this goal due to the replication handler - it requires rebooting the indexwriter. At the time, I settled for allowing a little race that didn't show up as an issue in tests - this IW reboot was always a bit of a hack in the past anyhow.
Now that the dust has settled, we should make this air tight though. I'd like to make opening a new indexwriter a full class citizen rather than a hacky method only used minimally for replication to reboot things. It should be a solid API that is valid for any uses down the road.
For some IW config changes, we may want to do it in 'some' cases on reload.
To do this, we have to start ref counting iw use - so that we only actually open a new one and close the old one when it's not in use at all.