Memory efficient compactions

The basic idea is to allow rows to get large enough that they don't have to fit in memory entirely, but can easily fit on a disk. The compaction algorithm today de-serializes the entire row in memory before writing out the compacted SSTable (see ColumnFamilyStore.doCompaction() and associated methods).

The requirement is to have a compaction method with a lower memory requirement so we can support rows larger than available main memory. To re-use the old FB example, if we stored a user's inbox in a row, we'd want the inbox to grow bigger than memory so long as it fit on disk.